Ep #73 | Embracing the Lack of Control: My Story Mothering for the First Time.
On Bell Let’s Talk Day, I tried to create a post about one of the times that challenged me the most in my life…but I came up short.
I started to cry before I could even write it. This wasn’t something I could truthfully share about in 350 words or less.
So, I decided to record a personal podcast episode for you instead…
You might watch my social media feed or my content and think I have it all figured out. That things flow effortlessly for me.
This is certainly not true.
I have felt sad and unmotivated in my life, and I believe that sharing my struggle will bring me closer to you and to all women.
We all struggle, we all go through rough times and vulnerability doesn’t make us weak — it makes us human.
Which is why today, I’m sharing about the time in my life where I had to embrace a lack of control, and what was one of my greatest struggles to date…when I became a mother for the first time.
Even though motherhood was everything I wanted, it wasn’t easy, it was actually draining, exhausting, and stressful.
Until I learned to embrace that I didn’t need to fix anything, but rather to go along with the awesomeness of this somewhat chaotic experience, accepting and surrendering to the process.
I hope this episode inspires you and softens some of the edges that you feel around this subject…
Here are the main topics covered in this intense and raw episode:
- Becoming a mother for the first time.
- Having a baby that is constantly screaming for 9 months.
- What was I doing wrong?
- Surrendering to the imperfect perfection of my reality.
- Letting go of the need to fix everything.
- Reestablishing the relationship as a couple.
- Learning to ask for help.
- Our babies choose us, they are unique: we can’t change, control or shift it.
- Learning to actually listen.
I hope that sharing this information helps to heal us all collectively. Wishing more simplicity and ease in all that you do!
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Quotes:
“Almost every mother goes through some type of trauma or stress”
“Let go of the need to fix everything.”
“When we mother we think we need to be there all the time, but you and your baby need space.”
“Our babies choose us, not the other way around.”
“Something beautiful happens when you are quiet when someone shares, you allow the space for them to keep talking and sharing, keep softening.”
Additional Information About Jenn:
Jenn studied and graduated with honors in Human Anatomy and Physiology with such a passion that it propelled her to continue her education over many years. Jenn is a Registered Holistic Nutritionist, Medical Exercise Specialist, Registered Yoga Instructor and Faculty of the Toronto Yoga Conference, Pre & Post Natal Yoga Expert, STOTT Pilates trained instructor, Twist Sport Conditioning Coach, Spin Instructor Crossfit Level 1 Coaching, among other certifications she got along the way. She is also a guest Holistic Expert for Breakfast Television, Global, CHCH, Rogers Tv and writes columns for STRONG Fitness Magazine, iRun magazine, Savvy Mom and contributes to Inside Fitness Magazine, The Toronto Star and Sun. She is also a proud educator and ambassador to Genuine Health, Nature’s Emporium and Juice Plus.
Jenn is a proud mama to two beautiful souls and her best teachers of life. She resides on Lake Simcoe in Keswick with her husband and two children.